This blog post is a variation on the theme “my boss asked me to dance” of some weeks ago.

It’s something that has been following me, harassing me like a very strong meme. It’s confrontational, as it lets me look in the mirror. It’s difficult as it requires me to let go the ego. The ego as in “the image that i think i am”, not that strange and blissful wholeness of the human duality, the yin/yan, the good/bad, the angel/shadow.

It’s difficult for me, because it requires me to come down from my ivory tower, from my comfortable cloud, from the comfort of likewise thinkers. It requires me to be genuinely interested in other people. From “networking” in the old style by exchanging business cards, and asking “what do you do?” to asking the question:

“what do you want to achieve, and how can i help you with that?”. 

Starting with that question, that openness, leads to a completely different conversation.

It’s weird that even in these reflection moments, i keep on falling in the trap of black/white, pro/con, before/after. But it is probably meant that way. I will write in another blog something about “what is driving you?” and “what you were meant to be”.

But anyway, falling in full consciousness in the trap of polarization, here are some examples of attitudes that illustrate “Fight or Dance”.

• From Boxing ring (and invite a man from audience) to being in a dance hall (and inviting a woman from the audience).
• From Masculine to Feminine energy (more on that in a later post)
• From doing boxing fitness training, to following Salsa/Tango lessons
• From shooting bullets and scaring the hell of your (counter)party, to embracing and be the level playing field
• From Being Judgmental to having an Open Mind
• From Being Cynical to having an Open Heart
• From Trying to Control to having an Open Will and let emerge
• From Being Convulsive and jerky to Being Fluid
• From Dancing alone to Dancing your PHD with somebody